The transition from elementary school to middle school is one of the most significant changes in a child’s educational life. So keep reading to learn more about Preteens and the Transition to Middle School.
The transition is magnified because preteens are faced with the many major structural differences between elementary and middle school at the very time that their bodies and emotions are changing at the most rapid rates of their lives. Interesting is this Dr. Dehra Harris video about transitioning from elementary to middle school and the huge step is is for children toward independence:
By understanding the following points about the nature of preteens entering middle school, parents can turn this challenging transition into a positive foundation for future interactions with their children:
At this age, there is a huge range of individual differences, so a task that is easy for your friend’s or relative’s children may be difficult for your child and vice versa.
Early adolescents have one foot in childhood and one tentative foot reaching out to adulthood.
They are by nature very “present tense.” Adults tend to be well organized, learning from the past and carefully planning ahead. It is important for parents to keep in mind that these skills are just developing in preteens. The more parents can accept these as developing skills, the less frustrated they will be.
E = “enjoy:” Find time to truly enjoy your children as they enjoy the excitement of starting middle school.
S = “support” Children this age will all need support from parents as they transition to middle school. The art of parenting middle schoolers is finding ways to support them that feel more like valued help than like attempts to micromanage their lives. Think of yourself more as a helpful consultant than a supervising manager. One way to achieve this is learning to be an active listener (i.e. truly listening to understand and accept your child’s thoughts and underlying feelings, rather than quickly offering solutions or judgments).
P = “positive:” Train yourself to look for and find the positive in your children. At this transition point, when they are, at times, in a state of disequilibrium, it will probably be easier to find their mistakes and shortcomings. However, learning to find and acknowledge their positives is an incredibly valuable skill to develop as a parent. This will actually serve to help your preteens develop more positive attributes, which in turn makes the positives easier to find and acknowledge. Your time together at this important time in your child’s life will be more gratifying for both of you.