Am I normal?
Do I fit in? Should I fit in?
Why do I feel the way I do?
When do I have to start worrying about taxes?
These are some of the “Important Questions on the Minds of Preteens” addressed by Rob Lehman, MD, and Julie Metzger, RN, MN, at Preteen Alliance luncheons held in August and September.
Both luncheons were extremely popular, with long waiting lists. Rob and Julie, who run a series of workshops for preteens and parents at both Seattle Children’s Hospital and Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital, shared insights into how preteens think.
In their talks, Julie and Rob stressed that parents should aim to reassure their preteens that the changes they are going through are normal, and offered insights about preteens, as well as suggestions for helping them through these important years.
Please bear in mind that the “Encouragement Approach” generally brings far better results than a repressive, negative attitude towards children in puberty. Showing faith in your children works far better. This way, they can believe in themselves. They must have the feeling that they are accepted as they are.
It is often the time that will transition to middle school and just remember how that was for you when you were young. You will see much better results if you point out the positive elements of their way of thinking and behavior and recognize their improvement and effort. Just show your appreciation for their achievements and contributions.