Preteens – How to help them become independent

Like many people, I remember the first time my dad took the training wheels off my bike. With a mix of fear, excitement, and adrenalin, I started out slowly and wobbly down the street, my dad jogging along beside me. I kept looking over to make sure he was there in case I lost control. He was, and I felt reassured. So in this post, let’s talk about Preteens – how to help them become independent.

As I straightened the wheels out a bit and picked up the pace, however, I suddenly looked over and realized he was not there and promptly fell off my bike. I sat there on the hard sidewalk inspecting my scratches as he ran up to me. He asked me what happened. Why did you stop?

I wailed back, you were not there. Where did you go? He explained to me that I was doing fine, and I did not need him. And then, he did the most important thing. He made me get back up on my bike and try again.

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What to do When Breakouts Occur

When most people experience a breakout, they immediately go to their local drug store and pick up one of the popular breakout products by Clean and Clear or order a product like ProActive to deal with their skin issues. These products generally help with acne. However, the best products are those recommended by dermatologists which provide far more permanent and effective solutions. To learn more about what to do when breakouts occur, take a look at this amazing Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin video that explains so much about care for children with acne.

Most dermatologists would recommend using a product both in the morning and in the evening for greater effectiveness at curing and preventing breakouts. In the morning, it is best to try a combination of benzoyl peroxide and a cindamizan product which a dermatologist can prescribe. Products with these chemicals have been shown to significantly reduce acne. Furthermore, a product with this combination should be used in the morning and applied in small amounts to the areas where the breakouts are to reduce and/or eliminate acne.

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Education Quest

Education does not mean that a person has a folder full of degrees, it means having an appropriate disposition towards life, towards fellow beings, towards your country. Does this statement seem ambiguous to you? If yes, keep reading this piece of writing to understand what we mean by Education Quest.

There are a number of so-called educated people around us who boast of having the best of the degrees from the best of universities around the globe but when it comes handling the problems of their life, they fail to do so. They keep complaining about the problems in their life and can not make out how to tackle that problem.

If a person can not do this simple task, then what is the purpose of education because historical perspective matters especially when it comes to atrocities against entire populations or genocide. An educated person is the one who is appreciative of the turns of the life, also the cruelties that come with it, and understands that it is a common phenomenon of life and problems are also a part and parcel of life, and most parents do that excellently.

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Super Teachers – The Parents

Parents are enjoying a revival of respect from authorities as significant contributors to their children’s learning. For many years, several parents suffered from low self-esteem and lack of confidence in their ability to teach their children. But the fact of the matter is that when we talk about Super Teachers – the parents come often first!

Much of this parents’ lack of confidence was promoted by well-intentioned educators. Fortunately, this is changing, thanks to current research. The experts are now proclaiming what many people intuitively knew all along — that parents are the most significant people in their children’s lives.

It has been assumed by some people that the way children are educated is through contact with a professional in a classroom or a center. Burton White of Harvard says that is not the way it is going to happen, nor is it the way it should happen.

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Why Every Preteen Needs A Mentor

My earliest mentor was an artist named Esmé who lived up the street from my family. She would open her tiny art studio to a few neighborhood kids and let us do whatever we wanted. Esmé gave a few pointers and demonstrated some techniques, but for project ideas, she let us take the lead, offering only words of encouragement. So let’s check it out and see why every preteen needs a mentor.

My parents still have some of my art from that time: painted plaster casts of toothpaste tubes inscribed with “Silly String,” glazed ceramic containers with no practical purpose, and many painted pet rocks. These experiences with Esmé had many impacts on me, influencing my choice of career as an artist and art therapist, my belief in the power of creative expression, and my strong support of mentoring young people.

Most of us can recall at least one adult who made us feel special, who nurtured our talents, who reinforced the idea that we were fine just the way we were. These people are mentors, whether in formal programs, at the workplace, or through an informal network of family and friends. In 2016, 3 million adults identified themselves as mentors to young people. One researcher lists 17.6 million additional American youth who want or need a mentor.

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Preteens – How to help them Develop a Positive Self-Image

As preteens sort through sometimes conflicting messages from parents, peers, and media, it can be challenging to guide them down a path toward positive self-image and healthful eating and exercise habits. So learn all about preteens and Preteens – how to help them develop a Positive Self-Image.

At the November 1 Preteen Alliance luncheon, Ann Tipton, MD, an adolescent medicine specialist from Kaiser Permanente, and Amy Jussel, a media expert and executive director of Shaping Youth, offered tools to help parents and caregivers meet those challenges head-on.

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Companies build teen communities around products is not your typical teen community Website. Like lots of others, it offers predictable teen fare about boys and articles about how to clear up acne. But it also features dancing tampons and flying feminine-protection products. So let’s see how some companies build teen communities around products.

These hygiene-products-turned-characters wear capes and masks and dance around the screen to a techno-beat. Dubbed “The Super Fems,” and individually named “Captain Maxi,” “Super Tampon” and “Wonder Liner” – they are a dead giveaway that there’s something more to this site than teen high jinks and gossip.

That something more is Procter & Gamble. In New York, they focused also on teens that needed to complete the New York State Regents exam or the TASC exam (previously GED) and the struggle they experienced in order to continue their education at college or university. Very successful!

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Preteens and their Important Questions

Am I normal?
Do I fit in? Should I fit in?
Why do I feel the way I do?
When do I have to start worrying about taxes?

These are some of the “Important Questions on the Minds of Preteens” addressed by Rob Lehman, MD, and Julie Metzger, RN, MN, at Preteen Alliance luncheons held in August and September. So let’s go a little deeper into Preteens and their important questions.

Both luncheons were extremely popular, with long waiting lists. Rob and Julie, who run a series of workshops for preteens and parents at both Seattle Children’s Hospital and Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital, shared insights into how preteens think.

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Preteen Support – the Encouragement Approach

A very important part of preteen support is the Encouragement Approach. This helps preteens to recognize their efforts and improvements through such communication as:

“It looks like you’ve worked really hard on that.”
“It looks like you’ve spent much time thinking this through.”
“I see that you’re moving along.”
“Look at your progress!”  (Tell how, be specific)
“You’re improving in…” (be specific)
“You may feel you’ve not reached your goal, but see how far you’ve made it!”

See also this video about how your teenager’s brain functions:

Note of caution…These and the other encouraging communications we have been learning can be discouraging to children when we use them with an “I told you so” or arrogant attitude.  Avoid giving with one hand and taking away with the other.  In other words, avoid qualifying or moralizing comments.

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Preteens and the Transition to Middle School

The transition from elementary school to middle school is one of the most significant changes in a child’s educational life. So keep reading to learn more about Preteens and the Transition to Middle School.

The transition is magnified because preteens are faced with the many major structural differences between elementary and middle school at the very time that their bodies and emotions are changing at the most rapid rates of their lives. Interesting is this Dr. Dehra Harris video about transitioning from elementary to middle school and the huge step is is for children toward independence:

By understanding the following points about the nature of preteens entering middle school, parents can turn this challenging transition into a positive foundation for future interactions with their children:

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Tips To Help Your Teen Find A Vacation Job

Summer vacation isn’t coming up yet, but your teenager is already talking about getting a job. After spending the last few summers watching your kiddo sleep until noon, texting his or her friends for hours at a time and struggling to do the most basic chores, you could not be happier about your teen’s desire to work.

In order to help your teenager find a great job that suits his or her personality and navigate the often-stressful hiring process, check out these tips and ideas:

Help your teen identify good job opportunities

In the world of teenage employment, some jobs are definitely better than others. While some teens are happy to bag groceries at the nearest supermarket, others would like to work at a hotel, summer camp program or local hardware store. Talk with your teen about different jobs to try to figure out which positions might be best.

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